Monthly Archives: June 2011

Want an Independent Daughter? Stop Taking Control!

Now 28 and 24, my daughters lead exciting, rewarding and independent lives. How did they get that way? I don’t really know. But I will tell you this: when they were growing up, they cared more about their work and activities than I did.

When mothers care too much about their daughters’ lives, friends, schoolwork, sports and everything else, it can lead to a very unhealthy alliance. Girls feel incompetent and overshadowed.  Sure, our kids will always need parental guidance, instruction and support. And they will always need a standard of behavior to model. But as mothers we should not be our daughters’ sole mentors.

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